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Journal of Seth Metoyer

Welcome, my name is Seth. I used to keep a journal here years ago and have started yet again chronicling details of my life. I found that I actually missed writing my thoughts out, and LJ is a place that can write about topics that I don't really want to post elsewhere online.

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Seth

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Introverts: A Field Guide to the Loner

I've been studying the facets between Introverts and Extroverts over the last year and know for a fact that I am a true Introvert.  Most social experiences and self assessing reflections can be whittled down and explained depending on which one you are.  Obviously there can be varying degrees, and there can even be social Introverts as well as shy extroverts.  I'm not going to really go into the details here, but I came across a decent article today about "loners" and it discusses the introvert and extrovert dynamic quite well.  Check it out below.

Field Guide to the Loner: The Real Insiders

Miina Matsuoka lives by herself in New York City. She owns two cats and routinely screens her calls. But before you jump to conclusions, note that she is comfortable hobnobbing in any of five languages for her job as business manager at an international lighting-design firm. She just strongly prefers not to socialize, opting instead for long baths, DVDs, and immersion in her art projects. She does have good, close friends, and goes dancing about once a month, but afterward feels a strong need to "hide and recoup." In our society, where extroverts make up three-quarters of the population, loners (except Henry David Thoreau) are pegged as creepy or pathetic. But soloists like Matsuoka can function just fine in the world—they simply prefer traveling through their own interior universe.

Loners often hear from well-meaning peers that they need to be more social, but the implication that they're merely black-and-white opposites of their bubbly peers misses the point. Introverts aren't just less sociable than extroverts; they also engage with the world in fundamentally different ways. While outgoing people savor the nuances of social interaction, loners tend to focus more on their own ideas—and on stimuli that don't register in the minds of others. Social engagement drains them, while quiet time gives them an energy boost.

Contrary to popular belief, not all loners have a pathological fear of social contact. "Some people simply have a low need for affiliation," says Jonathan Cheek, a psychologist at Wellesley College. "There's a big subdivision between the loner-by-preference and the enforced loner." Those who choose the living room over the ballroom may have inherited their temperament, Cheek says. Or a penchant for solitude could reflect a mix of innate tendencies and experiences such as not having many friends as a child or growing up in a family that values privacy.

James McGinty, for one, is a caseworker who opted out of a career as a lawyer because he didn't feel socially on-the-ball enough for the job's daily demands. He has a small circle of friends, but prefers to dine solo. "I had a bad cold over the Thanksgiving holiday, but that spared me from having to go to my brother-in-law's," he says. "I'm not a scrooge; it's the gatherings I dread." Matsuoka feels his pain: "I can't do large crowds with a lot of noise," she says. "It's stressful to maintain positive interactions and introduce yourself 20 times. I really have to turn on my motor to do that."Read more...Collapse )

What do you like to do when you can't get to sleep?

Often times I lay in bed and stare into the darkness.  A sound machine helps me relax, classical music and if I can't sleep at all I would watch fish in the fish tank if I had one.  That used to help me when I was a kid.

Writer's Block: Trick or treat

Do you plan to dress up this year? If so, who or what are you going to be?

I might dress up in a cape and hand out candy to kids if I feel at all social on that particular day.  Sounds good on paper anyway.  (Notice how the writers block question only prompted me to write few sentences, I think I failed this exercise).